Kol Nidrei ~ 5774
Kol Nidrei 5774
September 13, 2013
This is the story of Peggy and Joe and their son, Andrew. Peggy and Joe live in Vienna, Virginia, outside of Washington, D.C. Years ago, they decided to adopt a child from Guatemala. They chose Guatemala because they liked the culture, it was relatively close to the United States so they could visit often, and, most importantly, Guatemala allowed prospective parents to start a relationship with the child while the adoption process was pending.
Peggy and Joe met the child they named Andrew in December 2007 when he was four months old. They fell in love with him immediately and visited him numerous times, but then the most unexpected thing happened: Guatemala shut down international adoptions on January 1, 2008 amid allegations of fraud, kidnapping, and other crimes! They shut down all adoptions at that point. Andrew’s case got caught in the red tape and he couldn’t come to this country, but Peggy and Joe kept fighting for the right to bring their son home. As Peggy noted, “Once we started [the adoption process], he was our son. So you do anything you can for your family.”
Peggy moved to Guatemala in August 2008, shortly before Andrew’s first birthday, to take custody of him during her maternity leave. They had been told that Andrew’s adoption would take place in a few months. Well, Peggy’s maternity leave ended without the adoption being finalized. In July 2009 Joe moved to Guatemala using a six-month leave from his job. His six-month leave came and went and still Peggy and Joe couldn’t bring their son home to Vienna. Joe left his job to live with Andrew in Guatemala, with Peggy visiting monthly and the family Skype-ing regularly to keep in touch. Andrew’s grandparents, aunts, and uncles visited him as well.
In August 2012 Andrew was taken away from his home with Joe, the only home he knew, and put in an orphanage. The rationale behind putting Andrew in the orphanage? Guatemalan law stated that the only way the adoption process could continue was if the child did not live with the adoptive parents. Now here’s the really fascinating part: The Guatemalan government did a psychological report on Andrew and noted that taking him away from Peggy and Joe would be harmful to him, and yet he was placed in the orphanage anyway! When Peggy and Joe tried to visit him at the orphanage, they were turned away, being told that Andrew needed to get used to not seeing them. The Guatemalan judge also threatened to put Peggy and Joe in jail, claiming that they had violated international adoption law.
Senator Mary Landrieu of Louisiana, the founding co-chair and Board President of the Congressional Coalition on Adoption and co-chair of the Congressional Foster Care Caucus, became involved. With the help of her and others, Andrew was back home in six days. Six days may not seem like a lot of time, but for a young boy removed from his home, it was an eternity and Andrew was traumatized by his time away. For quite a while after his return from the orphanage, Andrew always had to be in the same room as Joe since he was afraid that he was going to be taken away again.
In April of this year – yes, 2013 — Peggy, Joe, and Andrew finally boarded a plane in Guatemala and arrived home safely in the United States. They were greeted at the airport by Senator Landrieu, Andrew’s grandparents, and other family members. All told, Peggy and Joe lived apart for 1,698 days – that’s over 4 ½ years! That’s half of their married life!
I’m pleased to tell you that Andrew has adapted quickly to his new home in Virginia and is leading a normal six-year-old life. A few weeks ago, just prior to Andrew’s sixth birthday, his mom posted the following on her Facebook page: “Everyday Andrew tells [Joe] and I that ‘this is the greatest day ever.’ Andrew is clearly wiser than his almost 6 years and I need to follow his philosophy on life.” [Monday, August 5, 2013]
Out of the mouths of babes, huh? This young boy, who lived apart from at least one of his parents for most of his life, who was taken away from the only family he knew and placed in an orphanage, who had so much happen in his young life, has a great attitude, that not only his mom should follow, as she noted in her Facebook post, but that we all should follow. Today is the greatest day ever! And not just because this particular day is Yom Ha-Kippurim — Yom Kippur, the Day of Atonement –, but because every day is, or has the potential to be, the greatest day.
As we gather here tonight, on this Kol Nidrei evening, this holiest evening of the year, we would do well to remember Andrew’s teaching: “This is the greatest day ever.” And tomorrow is the greatest day ever. And the day after that and the day after that and the day after… Every day is the greatest day ever.
In our liturgy, we find prayers that, directly or indirectly, remind us of that. In the evening we pray the Hashkiveinu prayer which begins with the words: “Hashkiveinu, Adonai Eloheinu, l’shalom, v’ha’amideinu, Malkeinu, l’chayim – Grant, O God, that we lie down in peace, and raise us up, O Sovereign, to life renewed.” We ask God to allow us a good night’s sleep and to give us a new day tomorrow. In the morning we are to say: “Modeh ani l’fanekha, Melekh chai v’kayam, she’he’chezarta bi nishmati b’khemlah, rabbah emunatekha – I offer thanks to You, ever-living Sovereign, that You have restored my soul to me in mercy: how great is Your trust.”
These prayers say, in effect, “this is the greatest day ever – and thank You, God, for letting me have yet another day, and thank You, God, for helping me to know what a great gift this is.” Each of us has our share of difficulties, but we are blessed to wake up each day. Thank You, God, for this gift.
I don’t think Andrew is a Talmudic scholar yet, but his comment to his mom reminds me of what the Talmud teaches about living our lives to the fullest: “R. Chizkiyah said in the name of Rav: You will one day give reckoning for everything your eyes saw which, although permissible, you did not enjoy.” [Yerushalmi, Kiddushin 4:12] In other words, be grateful for and take advantage of all of the wonderful gifts you have been given.
Rabbi David Wolpe, in his book Why Be Jewish?, writes about this idea to, as he translates the text, “indulge yourself in all things permitted to you.” He notes that pleasure or enjoyment is permitted, even promoted, but that “Judaism also asks that it be disciplined and sanctified… Our impulses cannot be indiscriminate. We have to channel their expression.” [p. 22] Whether we are talking about our sexual impulses, our eating habits, or other human impulses, “the calm, slow wisdom of moderation is the Jewish path,” Rabbi Wolpe writes. “The Jewish path means living richly and yet being one’s own master. Judaism allows us to rejoice in this world, to sample its pleasures, without losing our spiritual center.” [p. 23]
In other words, “today is the greatest day ever.” It has the potential to be so, if we just set our minds to it. We can – and must – rejoice in this world and sample the good in it. As this day of repentance, this day of prayer and fasting, comes to an end tomorrow evening, please remember Andrew’s lesson tomorrow — and the day after that and the day after that — to make this day, each day, the best we can, to enjoy the gifts that have been given to us.
I’m looking forward to meeting Andrew soon. I will give him a big hug and thank him for reminding me of this important lesson. I’ll also give his parents, Joe and my cousin Peggy, big hugs, too! May they be inscribed for a good year and may you and your loved ones also be inscribed for a good year.
G’mar chatimah tovah!
Yom Kippur Morning ~ 5774
September 14, 2013 by belin1964 • Blog Tags: High Holy Days, Sermons •
Yom Kippur Morning 5774
September 14, 2013
“Through thirty and more centuries, he has wandered about on earth,
He has seen far-flung empires crack and crumble,
and mighty peoples dwindle to naught…
With their kings and priests, their tyrants and princelings.
They have marched over him in vainglorious pride –
only to fall and die by the roadside.
But he, the Jew, still lives on…”
These words by Rabbi Lewis Browne, from his 1926 book, Stranger than Fiction: A Short History of the Jews, are the opening words on the website of Two Cats Productions, producers of the documentary, “The Jewish People: A Story of Survival.
I recently had the opportunity to watch this film on our local PBS station. Narrated by Martha Teichner, senior correspondent for CBS News, the one-hour documentary seeks to explain why, in Rabbi Browne’s words, “They have marched over him in vainglorious pride – only to fall and die by the roadside. But he, the Jew, still lives on…”
The film begins with the following narration:
The Jewish people, their journey is one of history’s most improbable survivals. Beginning as just a tribe of desert nomads in the near east some 40 centuries ago, they developed a new religion based on a relationship and covenant with one God. For millennia they have wandered the world almost never at home, temporary inhabitants of foreign lands. Their story has included enslavement in Egypt, captivity in Babylon, exile from their land, destruction of their capital city, and centuries of anti-Semitism. Indeed, they could be gone, but they’re still here.
The film traces back the origins of our religion to Abraham, citing how he developed a relationship with a single God. The first source we have is the Tanakh (Hebrew Bible), which was, as presented by the film, a book written as a document of faith. Dr. Christine Hayes, professor of Religious Studies at Yale University, and chairperson of its Department of Religious Studies, focuses on Talmudic-Midrashic studies and Classical Judaica. She is also a specialist in the History and Literature of Judaism in Late Antiquity. She notes that
The Torah is one crystallization of oral traditions that had become sacred to the community… Law for the ancient Israelites included every imaginable aspect of life from the way you sowed your crops in the field to how you distributed charity to marriage relations, personal status laws, everything that we think of as civil and criminal and penal law, but in addition, moral law and religious law. There wasn’t an area of life that was outside of God’s interest and concern…
The Torah, because it is such an anthology of so many different kinds of materials, became a resource then for Jews in later times. When they needed to comprehend what was happening in their own experience, they could find any number of prior reflections on the meaning of suffering, the meaning of history…
The documentary explains that the Temple in Jerusalem became the center of life for the Israelites and survived for some 400 years until the early sixth century (B.C.E.) with the arrival of the armies of Babylon… The Babylonians destroyed the Temple.
Dr. William G. Dever, an archeologist and professor, specializing in the history of Israel and the Near East in Biblical times, notes in the documentary: “The Temple is destroyed, Jerusalem is destroyed, the Israelite and Judean peoples are exiled…. As an archeologist, as far as I’m concerned, that should have been the end of the story, but [instead] it was the beginning.”
Shortly following the destruction of the First Temple, the Second Temple was built. In 70 C.E. it too was destroyed, this time by the Romans. In other circumstances, the destruction of the main focal point of a religion would have killed the religion, too. But not with the Jews! Civilizations have come and gone, and yet here we are thousands of years after our religion was founded, still surviving, still moving forward!
With the destruction of the Temples, our practices, as dictated in the Torah, such as how to observe festivals and holy days, which included bringing offerings and sacrifices to the Temple, could no longer take place. For example, if we were observing this Yom Kippur day back in Temple times we would be bringing fire offerings to the Temple as it notes in Leviticus: “‘Mark, the tenth day of this seventh month is the Day of Atonement. It shall be a sacred occasion for you: you shall practice self-denial, and you shall bring an offering by fire to the Lord; you shall do no work throughout that day.’” [Lev. 23:27-28]
Furthermore, with the destruction of the First Temple, the diaspora began. The Jews now lived outside of Jerusalem, making it difficult, if not impossible, to make the regular journeys to Jerusalem to make the offerings and sacrifices. So even before the Second Temple was destroyed, our ancestors had begun to change our mode of worship from a sacrifice-based one to a prayer-based one. So while we no longer bring fire offerings to the Temple on Yom Kippur, we still practice self-denial in the form of fasting and we still bring ourselves and our offerings – in our case, offerings to support the Tzedakah Committee’s food and toiletries drive – to our temple.
Jodi Magness, also an archeologist and professor, notes that:
The reason that Judaism was able to survive as a religion, survive the destruction of the Second Temple, and the fact that it’s not rebuilt soon after the destruction, what makes Judaism different from other ancient religions is that Judaism not only included the component of a sacrificial cult in a temple building, but also a set of laws…. So really it was the observance of the laws of the Torah, which enabled Judaism to survive the destruction of the Temple. [emphasis added]
So the end of the building, the end of the land (Eretz Yisraeil), didn’t have to be the end of the tradition. In fact, it could be argued that the diaspora gave birth to the concept of Am Yisraeil, the people of Israel, the community of Israel.
Becoming Am Yisraeil, a group of people following the same teachings and traditions, allowed us to survive the tragedies and calamities that befell our people, from the destructions of the Temples to the Crusades to the Holocaust. We should have disappeared and yet our ancestors adapted to new situations and new lands, developing new ways of observing our religion. We survived because we continued to learn from our sacred texts…we learned from our history…we learned from our stories.
Which brings us to today and to our community and our congregation. During these ten days, we have been brought together by Judaism – our own religion or that of our partner or of our children. We have come here these past ten days to be part of a larger group, to be part of a community.
We have survived as a people because of our history, because we study the stories of our people, stories we tell over and over, through lifetimes, through generations. We continue to do that today, to tell the stories, to live our lives guided by our traditions. We come together for life cycle events – whether they be celebrations or sadnesses. We come together for holy days and festivals. We come together to learn, to study the beauty that is Judaism. We face challenges together; we become stronger together. This is Judaism and this is Congregation Shaarey Zedek, Congregation Gates of Righteousness.
And that’s why we have gathered here over these past Ten Days of Repentance. As I noted on Rosh HaShanah evening, we have come home during these High Holy Days. We have come here to learn, to pray, and to join together as a loving family. This coming together is why we have survived these many years and this is why we will continue to not only survive, but flourish.
Welcome home! Let’s not wait another year to see each other again.
G’mar chatimah tovah!
May you be sealed for a good year!